Too much thinking going on.
Someone informed me that I think too much. Hmmm. Is that worse than thinking too little, or maybe not thinking at all? Have you ever heard the phrase, “paralysis from analysis”? I had a basketball coach who like to use that. Basketball is one of those games where reaction is critical. “Don’t think. React.”, he used to yell at us. He yelled alot.
His point is well taken. Although that works great with basketball, that doesn’t always work with matters of the heart. I will be the first to say that I am a walking contradiction. On one hand, I dwell on issues that should just dealt with. For example, it would’ve been best if I had starting dating a few months after the break-up with My Love. Instead, I kept it alive in my head and tortured by myself unnecessarily. I am also impulsive and emotional. Rather than think about a situation, I jump in and offer my opinion without thinking about the consequences. I’ve gotten into more heated arguments that way.
How does this relate to life in the present? I have been told by the woman I met last weekend, that she wants to get to know me better and just wants to date. Talk about slapping a governor on a high-revving engine! It’s for the best. If there’s a chance for a relationship, I have to take it slow. Look at the situation as a long walk in the park. We can hold hands, talk, stop and grab a bite to eat if we want, and not miss anything along the way. It’s better than riding in a Ferrari, at top speed, and all the sights are whizzing by in a blur. The fast ride is fun, but it’s over too soon and you don’t appreciate it.
Take it slow.
It’s appropriate that she like baseball. Baseball is a game of the long season, according to George Will. 162 games is a long season; anything can happen. I love watching baseball, so it will be nice to share this with someone. Too many women in my life didn’t like baseball. It will be nice to share this with her.