I love good live rock and roll. Last night, I got out and went to see The Wallflowers. I only knew of the two radio hits, One Headlight and 6th Avenue Heartache, but I knew that these guys were good. I wasn’t disappointed. These guys put on a great show, lots of music and not much talk.
But I found myself scanning the crowd. Yes, I was looking for The Woman Who Broke My Heart.
Truely, I do miss her. I think about her often. I do it, not because I’m hanging on to the past, but because I truely care about her. I could tell her anything. She was a kind, gentle soul who listened to me in my despair. I reciprocated by giving her the kindness she deserved. I gave her the space she needed to sort out her life. I did it because I understood what it was like to try and figure stuff out on your own.
Before you start coming down on me, saying that I shouldn’t go back to the woman who broke your heart. I understand your concern, but there’s a lot more going on here. Some of which I don’t fully understand myself. One bit is why she just gave up and walked away, just because those new love feelings had waned. That wasn’t my stuff to understand, but it was no less painful to hear.
Here’s the question I find myself asking: would you take her back if she asked you to?
Here’s where the conflicting emotions kick in. It’s been almost three months since we parted. I have gone through hell and back, and discovered a new dimension of my life. But there is a big hole that I want to fill. It may not be the time and place to fill it. Maybe I need more information. Maybe I need…..
All I know is that lately, I’ve found myself thinking about moving forward. I’ve been scared about doing it alone. I want to share my life with someone, but need to understand that I have to be patient with myself. I need to be gentle with myself.
I still miss her, The Woman Who Broke My Heart, and I still love her. I have never been touched so deeply by anyone else. Maybe she could become The Woman Who Helped Heal My Heart.
I hope.


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August 17, 2009 at 7:26 AM
Marge
only you can answer that question about taking her back if she were to ask.
Obviously you still love her.
I had a love affair sixteen years ago and it ended but the man and I are still friends today.
Sometimes it is hard to “Be just friends” when one thinks about all we shared.
However he needs to be with his children and wife more then he needs to be with me and I learned a long time ago to make a life without him in it.
I am happy with just being friends.
My husband has actually asked me how I can be friends with this other man and I simply tell him….
When you love someone, really love them, you want life’s best for them.
Even if life’s best isn’t with me….
I want this man to be happy and I care enough about him to want to be his friend.
Not everyone can do it.
Go from lovers back to friends and most people wouldn’t even want to try.
But only you can answer should “SHE” come back and ask for another chance.
Follow your heart.